Intentionally spending time with other couples can enhance your marriage.
Outside of your relationship with the Lord, your relationship with your spouse is the most important. Working to maintain a healthy marriage will reap benefits that impact you, your family, and others observing your life.
God has placed others around us to help us grow. In Proverbs 27:17NIV, Solomon says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” When we choose the right couples to double date with, time spent with other couples can equip and encourage us to thrive in our godly marriages.
In deciding whom to ask, think about your past experiences, your current situation, and your future hopes and dreams. You might want to choose older couples who can mentor you. You might consider couples who are in the same stage of life or stage of parenting as you are in. Think about people whom you admire, trust, and enjoy being with. Over the next several months, invite couples to double date with you who might be able to address the following needs:
1. Past experiences
a. “We need help getting over a reoccurring issue in our marriage.”
b. “You two have similar pasts to ours, yet you seem to thrive—how do you do it?”
2. Current situation
a. “We wonder if we are the only parents who feel this way.”
b. “You two never argue over money. We want to get there—what can we do?”
3. Future hopes and dreams
a. “We want to have a godly marriage like yours—where can we start?”
b. “We hope our kids will grow up and love the Lord like yours—what do we do?”
Going out to eat can get expensive, especially if you feel compelled to pick up the tab every time you ask a couple out on a double date. But don’t let money concerns stop you—consider these simple ideas:
1. Eat lunch together instead of dinner.
2. Meet up for coffee or dessert instead of dinner.
3. Choose a counter-service restaurant instead of one with a waiter.
4. Host the double date at your home, enjoying coffee or sharing a meal.
Finding time to spare in your schedule for double-dating is difficult. Also, finding the right couple to trust and get to know more can be a challenge. The work you put in to double date pays the most dividends when you get into a rhythm of meeting with a mentor couple.
In the Bible, we are advised to seek guidance from wise and experienced people. Mentor couples who are one or two stages of life ahead of you can offer valuable insight and advice to help you navigate the challenges of marriage. They have likely already been where you are and can guide you to overcome obstacles and address issues in ways that honor God.
Mentor couples provide you with an example to follow. Time with them could help you see the spiritual disciplines they practice, like prayer and Bible reading. You may see their engagement in discipleship or accountability.
Mentor couples can also provide support and encouragement during difficult times. Once you’ve established trust with them, they can prove to be listening ears, caring hands, and prayer warriors for you when you face challenges.
Consider a mentor couple as your first fun double date!
Disconnect to reconnect with your spouse.
Like any tool, cell phones can be incredibly useful, but they are also an effective distractor. Phone addiction is a growing problem, with adults feeling like they must be accessible to everyone, all the times. Every minute you spend glued to your phone takes your attention away from your partner which could potentially create feelings of resentment or isolation. Taking a break from technology to intentionally focus on your spouse not only shows them that they are valued, but also encourages a deeper relationship through face-to-face communication.
Dream about fun and creative things you would like to do together to strengthen your relationship. Write ideas on index cards and store in a convenient container. Periodically draw an activity card to help plan your next date. During your time together, do your best to put your phones away (unless it’s an emergency). You may need to cut something from your budget and your calendar so you can use that money and time for dating! Here are a few ideas to get you started:
Technology can be used in a way that honors both the Lord and your spouse, it just takes a little communication. Sit down together and discuss the options below and determine which are most beneficial to you. Also, create some of your own. Commit to:
Make an ordinary event something extraordinary!
Who doesn’t love movie night? The laid-back vibes, the smell of popcorn in the air, and the thrill of being transported into another place and time! One of the best things about a movie night though, is that there are so many ways to greatly enhance the experience with a little bit of imagination.
- Pick a movie that fits your date or your family.
- Put a date down on the calendar and start planning.
- Give it a theme. You could base the theme around a particular holiday, time, or place. Go all out and have everything revolve around this theme including the movie, decorations, and food.
- Create excitement. Two fun ways to create excitement for your event are to pass out handmade tickets or to invite family and friends by sending out invitations. They have to be on theme of course!
- Take it outdoors! Buy or borrow a projector, hang up a sheet, and enjoy a movie night in your backyard.
- Create a cozy atmosphere. Whether you opt for the outdoors or prefer the comfort of your living room, make your time together extra cozy by throwing on your pj’s and piling up the blankets and pillows. Make it extra fun and snuggly by building a fort or a tent!
- Make it more relational. One downfall to a movie night (or plus depending on your personality) is the lack of conversation. One way to make it more relational is by having a discussion after the movie.
Watch the film together and use the verse above and the questions below for a discussion after viewing the movie:
End your time together by giving thanks to God for your family. Ask Him to help your family make wise and God- honoring choices as you work to disconnect from technology in order to better connect with each other and with Him.
"'Everything is permissible for me', but not everything is helpful.'Everything is permissible for me,' but I will not be brought under the control of anything." 1 Corinthians 6:12
Disconnect from technology in order to connect with your family.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the average 8-10 year-old spends nearly eight hours per day on media and teens spend more than 11 hours. That’s one-third of their day or more! Let’s face it, we live in a technological world and phones are not going anywhere. However, learning to manage it well and taking time away from phones can be very helpful in creating closer connections in your home. Now, more than ever, children need strong relationships with Christian parents and mentors. Disconnecting from the world to spend intentional time as a family not only cultivates these relationships but also creates memories that last a lifetime!
Grab a basket, bowl, or bike helmet (ha!) to put all of your family’s phones in. Then decide as a family an activity from below:
Collect ideas and store them in a jar. Randomly select an idea and make plans for your next adventure.
One of the best ways to have more faith-based conversations with your kids is to integrate them into your daily life. Here are a few ways you can add a little faith to any of the activities above:
- Find a Bible verse or passage that applies to the activity and let it be your why.
- Pray without ceasing. Let your kids see you praying throughout your day and let them join in.
- Have an attitude of gratitude. Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
- Let your interactions with everyone you come across reflect the love of Jesus. Yes, even when you’re driving!
Agreement leads to higher levels of satisfaction within your marriage.
Disagreement is inevitable within marriage and can often lead to unnecessary frustration and disappointment when left unresolved. Prepare-Enrich, an assessment Bellevue uses, encourages couples to reflect on 9 core aspects of marriage. Research reveals that the more areas a couple can agree on, the more they will be satisfied in their marriage!
Agreement in the following core aspects is vital in a marriage relationship.
This is the fun part! Go on a date, take a walk, or find your favorite spot for a meaningful conversation. Then begin to work through the 3 following steps:
1. Pray together. Thank the Lord for your marriage and ask God for wisdom. Read the following verses together for encouragement: Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
2. Circle any of the 9 core aspects in which you and your spouse have already found agreement. These are aspects where you are running smooth as silk!
Each spouse can ask the other:
3. Underline any of the 9 core aspects in which you and your spouse are facing disagreement. These are aspects where there may be tension in the marriage.
Each spouse can ask the other:
Bellevue has partnered with an online assessment provider called Prepare-Enrich. The assessment is made up of about 200 questions to help you pursue agreement and combat disagreement. If you would to take the assessment and have a trained, Bellevue pastor guide you through the results, please call 901-347-5751.
Choose to make the most of this special season.
One of the greatest joys in life is being a grandparent. Grandparenting is an adventure that takes some by surprise, and others enter grandparenting after long seasons of anticipation. Being a grandparent is a journey of JOY!
Grandparents can have an amazing influence on their grandchildren. It is not enough to just be a grandparent—we must choose to be an intentional Christian grandparent.
Grandparents are second only to parents in their potential to influence children spiritually.
As grandparents, we should be like Jesus and aim reach the hearts of our grandchildren.
1. Like Jesus, we must be purposeful.
a. A purposeful grandparent impacts their grandchildren through vision and direction.
2. Like Jesus, we must be passionate.
a. A passionate grandparent impacts their grandchildren through profound and transparent passion driven by deeply felt emotions. Emotion is a highway to the heart.
3. Like Jesus, we must excel in personal relationships.
a. A grandparent can deeply touch their grandchildren through personal relationships with them.
4. Like Jesus, we must impact the heart through perspective.
a. A grandparent can impact their grandchildren by imparting perspective through interactive conversations and sharing ideas—thereby molding the thinking processes of grandchildren.
1. Creation Station | Bellevue Baptist Church | East Lobby | (901) 347-2509
2. High Point Climbing | 21 N Humphreys Blvd. | (901) 203-6122
3. Memphis Zoo | 2000 Prentiss Pl. | (901) 333-6500
4. Memphis Redbirds Baseball | AutoZone Park | 200 Union Ave. | (901) 721-6000
5. Children’s Museum of Memphis | 2525 Central Ave. | (901) 458-2678
6. Fire Museum of Memphis | 118 Adams Ave. | (901) 636-5650
7. Picnic with your grandchildren at one of the many parks in the Memphis area.
8. Attend your grandchildren’s extracurricular events, and take them for ice cream or a meal afterward.
9. Go fishing or feed ducks at a local lake.
10. Host a “Grandparent Camp,” and let your grandchildren stay with you for a few days.
1. Ask your grandchildren questions, and pray for ways to bring up God’s blessings, grace, and hope in your conversations with them.
2. Celebrate good things with your grandchildren, verbally thanking the Lord for their good news.
3. Tell your grandchildren about your faith journey.
4. Pray with and for your grandchildren, ask them to pray over meals, and encourage them in their prayer lives.
5. Point to things God made, and remind them, “God made that.”
6. When you see a first responder vehicle racing to an emergency, pray out loud for everyone involved.
God has placed you in the life of your grandchildren. You have influence. You can choose to be an intentional Christian grandparent—enjoy the journey!
Develop relationships during the outdoor months.
Our mission at Bellevue directs us to share Jesus. Developing relationships with lost people is one way in which we obey the Lord. God has placed you in a neighborhood where you can get to know people who are far from Him, and summertime is the best time to do that!
You can develop relationships with your neighbors by organizing the following activities and inviting them to attend:
1. Offer a summer Bible study or book club in your home.
2. Host a fun game night.
3. Play kickball, inviting children to play and parents to watch.
4. Start a walking club.
5. Host a get-to-know-you event for new neighbors.
6. Invite neighbors to enjoy a fire in your backyard firepit, and make s’mores.
7. Plan a neighborhood playdate for your children or pets.
8. Invite neighbors over for dinner, a potluck, ice cream, etc.
9. Team up with your neighbors to have a big garage sale.
10. Host a Fourth of July get-together, and watch fireworks.
Here’s the plan:
1. Choose an activity.
2. Pick a day of the week that best fits your schedule.
3. Find the best place for your activity (your home, your driveway, your backyard, etc.).
4. Involve others to help with the preparations.
5. Start spreading the word! You can do this the old-fashioned way by hanging signs and knocking on doors, or you can post in your neighborhood Facebook page or the Nextdoor app.
As you get to know your neighbors, consider how our Pastor directs us to “find a need and meet it; find a hurt and heal it.” Spending time with your neighbors gives you opportunities to learn about them and uncover their needs and hurts. Ultimately, you want to look for opportunities to share Jesus with them and lead them to the same salvation that Jesus offered you.
Ask your neighbors questions, and listen to their answers. Here are examples of questions to ask:
1. Would you tell me about your family?
2. What brought you to this neighborhood?
3. Who all lives in your home with you?
4. Where do you work, and how are things going there?
5. What do you think about living in Memphis?
6. What are some things you enjoy doing?
7. Is there anything that you need help with around your house?
8. Are you currently attending church anywhere?
9. Has faith played a role in your life?
10. Do you know for certain that you will go to Heaven when you die?
In Matthew 5:14–16, Jesus describes the importance of going out into the world around us. He calls us to let our light shine brightly for others so they can see the Father. Choosing to intentionally build relationships with the families living around you is a great way to create opportunities to share the Gospel, build a stronger community, and even make lasting summer memories for your children. Bonus points if you supply the ice cream!
Turn your family meal into outdoor fun!
Picnics combine the power of family meals with the fun of being outdoors. In her book The Surprising Power of Family Meals, Miriam Weinstein revealed that eating meals together is the magic bullet to dramatically improve your family’s health. And taking those meals outdoors to fun locations can be exciting for the whole family.
Listed below are places with great views, places to play, and spots ready to be explored:
1. Mud Island or Harbor Town, alongside the Mississippi River
2. The Crystal Shrine Grotto, located in the Memorial Park Cemetery
3. Martyrs Park, located downtown and overlooking the river
4. Shelby Farms near the playground or a lake
5. International Harvester Managerial Park in Lakeland
6. Cameron Brown Park in Germantown
7. W.C. Johnson Park in Collierville
8. Blue Lagoon Park in Arlington
9. Mud Island River Park
10. Overton Park
Plan to have fun! Bring balls, Frisbees, kites, bubbles, fishing poles, or a board game with you.
Go when the weather is great! Look ahead to pick the time of day and day of the week that will provide the best weather for your time outdoors.
Score with your children by bringing the right food! Bring homemade or purchased food, snacks, drinks, and dessert that everyone in the family enjoys.
Pack the right clothes! Take what you’ll need for your picnic, which could involve swimming, wading, hiking, or cooler temperatures after sunset.
Set the scene with the right music! Bring your phone (and a Bluetooth speaker if you have one) to play music that fills the air with worship, gets the kids dancing, or sets the mood.
Make a big deal about God’s creation! While outdoors, take turns pointing out all that God made, and don’t forget to point to each other.
Don’t forget a blanket, camping chairs, paper towels, a trash bag, and bug spray.
In January 2023, Bellevue launched an all-new, original Life Group curriculum titled "Stories of the Bible." All ages and stages of life will walk through the same curriculum each week with appropriate levels of biblical learning for each stage. Our prayer is that families and friends can come together to discuss what they are learning each week, growing in Christ as a church family. Don't miss this opportunity to join a Life Group and learn the true stories of the Bible together!
Parents, become more confident and consistent in teaching your children biblical truth in 2023. Every Life Group, from babies to senior adults, will be learning the same story from the Bible each week. Families can use the ABC strategy at home throughout the week to reinforce and grow in Christ together.
Engage your kids with three age-appropriate discussion questions provided for each week's story. Questions can be found in the attachments below.
Engage your kids with three age-appropriate discussion questions provided for each week's story. Questions can be found in the attachments below.Parents share one thing they learned about the weekly story from their Life Group lesson.
Engage your kids with three age-appropriate discussion questions provided for each week's story. Questions can be found in the attachments below.Families are be given one activity per week to do together that brings the biblical truth from each week's story to life. Activites can be found online.
By being in a Life Group and doing the ABCs each week, your entire family will be better prepared for spiritual conversations in the car, during family meals, and at bedtime.
"Building of the Tabernacle"
Exodus 26
"King Saul"
1 Samuel 9:15–17, 10:20–27
"Solomon and the Temple"
1 Kings 8:1–61
"Joash and the People Gave Offerings"
2 Chronicles 24:1–14
January 8
"In the Beginning..."
January 15
"The Temptation and Consequence of Sin"
January 22
"The Obedience Required for Sacrifice"
January 29
"Living a Life of Faith"
February 5
"Faith in Every Circumstance"
February 12
"Joseph and His Family"
February 19
"Joseph Exalted"
February 26
"Jesus at the Temple"
March 5
"John the Baptist and Jesus"
March 12
"The Temptation of Jesus"
March 19
"Jesus Calls the Disciples"
March 26
"Feeding the Five Thousand"
April 2
"The Triumphal Entry"
April 16
"Breakfast with Jesus"
April 23
"The Great Commission / The Ascension"
April 30
"The Early Church"
May 7
"The Church Served"
May 14
"Philip and the Ethiopian"
May 21
"Saul's Conversion"
May 28
"Paul and Barnabas"
Join Avery and her furry friend, Elvis, for a new season of KidVue. We are so excited to explore more of God’s Word with you this season!
kidvue.org
www.YouTube.com/kidvue
Sundays 9:15 and 11:00 am
Located in: Fellowship Hall
Children Pre-K4–3rd grade are invited to participate in KidVue Worship and one of our children’s Life Group sessions to complete their Worship experience.
KidVue Worship includes age-appropriate praise music, Bible lessons, table activities and more. We have an entire team ready to lead your child in Worship and teach them how worthy our Lord is to be praised.
If you have questions or would like more information about our KidVue Worship, email our Children’s Ministry.
Listen to Mrs. Donna’s encouragement as she spoke at a recent Parent Rally. She speaks to:
The #1 predictor of a spiritually healthy young adult is “the child regularly read their Bible while growing up.”* We invite you, as parents, to learn ways to help your child(ren) foster a love of Scripture at a young age. We will equip you with tools to lead spiritually in your household through prayer, selecting a Bible, choosing a Bible reading plan, and much more. Fight for your family by prioritizing time in God’s Word daily.
If you have questions or would like to speak to a member of our Family Ministry team, text “Family” to 901901, call 901-347-5740 or email us. We’re looking forward to hearing from you.
Parents, did you know you can check in for your kids through the Bellevue app before you arrive at church? When you access childcare or children's programming and check in through the app, you'll have a QR code to scan at the kiosk upon arrival. Expedite check-in by downloading the app!